Wednesday, September 29, 2010

When a simple 'no' would suffice

When a simple no would suffice

I called the number on the birthday party invitation ...

fully expecting to decline the Saturday afternoon party.

The RSVP date had already passed.

I'd waited to reply for no good reason, merely forgetfulness and dread.

Saturday is filled with things to do. A mid-day party would put us over the top and over extended.

Yet, when the mom answered the phone I inexplicably accepted.

What's another couple of hours? Another present to purchase? It's not as if we COULDN'T make the time.

I should really work on saying "No."


Anonymous Kcoz said...

I would think the reason you did not say NO is because the people having the party are important in some way to you or someone else in your family…when you made the call you were probably in the “I’d rather not” mood as opposed to “this is unimportant”, as to why you did not say NO.

Many of us find ourselves in the same situation and respond the same way…Me thinks It is not that we can’t say NO, it is because we are not definite on the reason to say NO.


September 30, 2010 at 9:52 AM 
Anonymous toyfoto said...

It definitely was "I'd rather not." However, I don't think I would have classified its importance. I've never met this particular child, and my guess is EVERYONE in class was invited (that's just how these things are mostly done). Still, I felt saying we "couldn't make it" was a lie.

September 30, 2010 at 12:02 PM 
Anonymous Kcoz said...

I can appreciate your morality on this issue and how you say it played into your decision to not say NO, but I must ask this; We know Annabel is very important to you, and her feelings just as important as well. Knowing that most all her classmates would be there and the possibility of her feeling left out by not attending this party…would not an importance factor play into this in some way?

If she was asked to go shopping with a few of her friends as apposed to this party, would it not have been easier to tell a little white lie and say NO?


September 30, 2010 at 2:37 PM 
Blogger toyfoto said...

I seriously don't think she pays much attention to things "outside of the moment." When I told her we'd be going to the party, she was happy but she didn't seem to know about it.

I think having plans... wanting to do one thing over another, even ... isn't even a white lie. It falls into the category of other plans/commitments.

If she'd already RSVPed to the party and an event she'd rather attend came up, THAT would be a dilemma.

October 1, 2010 at 5:55 PM 

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